Building Resilience and The Bitter-Sweet Taste of SuccessPosted by Maite Baron
Building Resilience and The Bitter-Sweet Taste of Success
None of us wants to experience failure. We’re hard-wired to avoid it wherever possible.
It leaves a bitter taste and makes you feel frustrated. It wastes your time. It costs you money. And worst of all, it can impact on your self-esteem and how friends, family or colleagues perceive you.
However, the reality is that it is not possible to succeed at everything, every time.
Each day is a gamble, because while you believe you are making the very best decisions, any number of things outside your control can have unexpected consequences. It’s part of life and, ironically, of the road to success.
That’s because experiencing perceived failure in life can actually be a good thing. Here’s why you need to learn to embrace it.
When something goes wrong, how you react is often the most important thing. If you give up when failure knocks you back, you are admitting defeat. By getting up again, you are building resilience and character, to better equip you to succeed next time. As German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche once said, well over a century ago: “That which does not kill us, makes us stronger,” and new research into those who suffer major trauma proves that he was right.
It reveals that after a major life crisis, post-traumatic growth (PTG) occurs, with sufferers actually experiencing a renewed appreciation for life and a feeling of greater personal strength that makes them feel happier and more satisfied.
Disappointment can also be turned into a learning experience, giving you the opportunity to find out what works and what doesn’t. So, if you choose, you can take the same view as inventor Thomas Edison, who in search of the perfect filament for a light bulb, remarked after unsuccessfully trying yet another material: “ I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Disappointment and failure also make success – which Winston Churchill defined as “stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – all the sweeter when it comes. After all, the world has been built on overcoming challenges, because that’s what we, as humans, do.
Unfortunately, game and talent shows often promote the idea that you can be an overnight success and that effort and work aren’t required for achievement. If you believe this, then setbacks are harder to cope with when they come.
On the other hand, not giving up and pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone helps you to grow. As author Napoleon Hill put it: “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache, carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.”
Looking at it another way, if you never fail, does that simply mean you are someone who plays it safe the whole time?
How you approach disappointment defines you not just in your personal life, but also in business. In fact, if you want to be a leader or an entrepreneur, overcoming disappointment plays an even greater part in your life, because you are continually pushing the boundaries of what’s possible.
If you want to create a better future, you must build the muscle to deal with the downs, as well as the ups, knowing that you have the opportunity to make life better through your choices.
As Dale Carnegie puts it, “Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success,” so if you aren’t experiencing either, you aren’t fully challenging yourself to be the person you could be.
Now I would like to hear from you.
In which areas of your life do you need to step out your comfort zone to grow and achieve your full potential?
Add your voice to the discussion and comment below.
To Your Success & Fulfillment,